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"Grace Based Discipline" By: Karis Kimmel Murray

Book Review by Colette SanFelice

In this book the author discusses how to discipline our kids when our standard default mode is to "freak out". How to take a step back and handle things with grace instead. My biggest take away from the book was this, "His (God) decision to extend grace, undeserved favor, in order to have a relationship with us and therefore in terms of parenting, treating the people you are called to love the way God treats you-with grace". Another point in the book I found would be helpful in developing a stronger communication within the family was developing a Family Code with everyone's input. (Chapter 3)

In the author's words, "Parents face a crazy paradox. We love our kids exactly as they are, but we also love them too much to let them stay that way". 

The author then illustrates many concepts throughout the book to put our emotional reactions aside to better deal with our children. 

 As a working mom of three, I did find some suggestions in this book to appear a little far fetched and time consuming. The ideas are good though and I would say that as a parent you could take the concept and fit it to your needs. 

Final take away- More than anything, we've got to get out of our own way and let God parent our children through us. That's how faith will come alive in our kids.  

"Tough Stuff Parenting" By Paul Basden and Jim Johnson

Book Review by Colette SanFelice 

This was such a great book to read! This book takes 10 very prominent issues and breaks them down for parents to have open communication with their children. Each chapter spends time breaking down how to communicate with the various age groups of your children. The authors are very sensitive to modern culture yet stand firmly with biblical standards. 

The main topics in this book include but are not limited to: 



Having sex

Awareness of other religions


Dealing with "difficult situations"


Same sex attraction

Drugs and alcohol


With each chapter/topic the authors offer specific advice for parents of elementary-age children, tweens and teens. 

The chapters I personally found the most insightful were; Divorce, racism and same sex attraction. I appreciate how this book is nonjudgmental and offers multiple perspectives on handling the situations. 

I would highly recommend this book, especially in light of the temperature of our current society. These are all difficult conversations to have, but beyond important for us as parents to have them with our children.